Thursday, September 5, 2013

A New September (in Memory of My Momma)

I've loathed the month of September for years. So much so, in fact, that the "Over It October" celebration I kicked off with one of my best friends in college has become an annual month-long holiday we look forward to for eleven months of the year.

September hasn't established the best reputation for itself in my lifetime, and last year was no exception in its poor performances. I, along with her many other admirers, said goodbye to one of the most outstanding people I've ever known: my Momma

A date that will be marked on my
calendar for many years to come.

When September snuck into my peripheral vision this year, I immediately started dreading it. After all, I'm very far away from home and anyone who even knew my Momma, yet I'll have to watch two significant dates come and go: September 9th and September 20th. 

September 9th is my Momma's birthday.
September 20th marks the commemoration of her death.

Heavy, right? It's really easy for me to chalk September up as a loss for my morale, but in the spirit of the woman behind those two dates, I'm determined to turn September around. Rather than focusing on the dates that bookend her life, I hope to celebrate the many days between them. This year, I'll be making extra effort to celebrate my Momma's outstanding life - beginning to end - from  Monday, September 9th to Friday, September 20th. That's twelve days. Two weeks. One weekend.    

My Momma was the kind of person who radiated sunshine on the cloudiest of days, believed in you when you didn't believe in yourself, and celebrated the smallest tidbits of joy. In her honor, I'm challenging myself to mindfully make decisions that perpetuate her warm spirit as often as possible. 

If you knew my Momma, or even if you didn't, I'd love for you to join me. I'm not asking for extravagant and elaborate; she didn't have much taste for such things anyway. She was a fan of the everyday, of the simple, and of the thoughtful. 

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From September 9th to September 20th, you can help me make sure her legacy lives on long after she did. It can be as simple as choosing to be patient, sharing your favorite memory of my Momma, deciding to listen rather than talk, catching up with an old friend, planting flowers for someone else to enjoy for years to come, saying hello to a stranger, sending a post card, posting an encouraging Tweet or Facebook status update, leaving a small note, sharing your cupcake or umbrella or optimism, letting your kids stay up 15 minutes later than usual, doing your roommate's least favorite chore, or offering someone a ride.

Looking for inspiration? A lovely lady took on a similar challenge for a whole year, and she's got this project to show for it. And if you're really wanting to go the extra mile, I'd love for you to share some of the ways you're remembering my Momma in a comment below!

Together, we might manage to turn September around.


2 comments:

  1. As always, your eloquence astounds me and brings me to tears. Your momma, Martha, Nana was all you mentioned and more! I suppose the most prominent in my mind would be how she cared for others...a nurse to the core. She left a lasting legacy. I will be thinking of you this September.

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  2. I was not fortunate enough to meet the angel that you described but through the faultless description you have painted a portrait of someone that always had the world in her hands and her family in her heart. Through your eyes I see an extremely special and unique lady that would have light up a room with her smile and filled souls with her comforting embrace.
    The world lost a truly unique human being on that mournful day but I have know doubt when I say that she is sitting peacefully and watching over you ever day.
    The gift that she has left behind has mustered extraordinary strength when the average person would crumble; she created a light that this at times dark world, so desperately requires. Her legacy is not only immortal, it continues to grow for the world is blessed by that fact that during her tragically brief time on this mortal coil she created a daughter.

    My mother is the center of my universe and nothing could ever change that.

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